Yusuf Idris CODEPENDENT: Stop Controlling Others, Stop Struggling With

The heart of a codependent runs deep. You have a sincere desire to help and ease the pain of others. Your heart hurts to see others struggle. Being compassionate is second nature to you. These traits are a magnet for those with a need for constant support. People trust you with their deepest pains because you are empathetic. You know what it feels like to suffer, but you may not share it publicly. The difference is that you can put your pain aside to help others. Tip Strive for moderation. Most people who struggle with codependency are afraid of what others will think if they stop taking care of everyone. Recognize that giving is only one reason people like you. Your generosity shouldnt increase your stress. If it does, its time to find ways to contribute that are more aligned with your needs. Codependency is developed in childhood as a response to coping with addiction, neglect or abuse. When childrens needs arent met, they look for ways to stay safe and avoid the abuse. They learn how to take the emotional temperature of others in order to stay safe. Reading other peoples feelings and behaviors becomes your unique gift. You know where there is tension in a room and how to avoid it. In adult relationships you are extremely perceptive and able to pick up on the littlest of upsets. You may find yourself taking things personally as a result. Tip Trust these feelings as your guide. They serve you well in most situations but that doesnt mean you need take action. Being able to... | Yusuf Idris CODEPENDENT: Stop Controlling Others, Stop Struggling With