The Child-Healthy Divorce : How to Protect Your Child’s Mental and Emotional Health through a Breakup or Separation

A framework for child-centred divorce from acclaimed psychoanalyst and award-winning author, Erica Komisar. A good divorce is better than a bad marriage, but for children that doesn’t make the split any easier.Legal decisions have emotional consequences. Well-meaning parents can become hostile, insecure or jealous, and well-adjusted kids can grieve the loss of the family unit, rage at the pain that they feel, or prey on parental guilt. In The Child-Healthy Divorce, acclaimed psychoanalyst and award-winning author Erica Komisar marshals more than 30 years of clinical experience and extensive research to show readers how to make an effective plan that centres children’s needs.Her advice includes:- how to talk to your children about what’s happening, - how to maintain normal routines,- what to know about kids of different ages. For example, interrupting a child’s attachment with the primary caregiver before age three can lead to behavioural problems later in life.Teens going to college also need a stable home as a foundation to establish their own independence. With numerous case studies and practical strategies, the book shows parents: - how to create age-appropriate custody arrangements, - reassure kids without invalidating their feelings, - how to build a positive support system, As well as It also provides helpful guidance about new partners, blended families, and other special situations.Most importantly, it offers hope. No one with kids wants a divorce, but if that step becomes necessary, this book can help readers establish the emotional security that their children need for success in life.