Heart Tantrums and Brain Tumours : A Tale of Misogyny, Marriage and Muslim Feminism

When Aisha Sarwari moved to America as a young woman, she set out to create her own identity and story.Born in Uganda, she had never lived in South Asia, yet struggled to reconcile the cultural expectation to be a ‘good Muslim girl’ with her desire for equality and acceptance. After she met Yasser, a Pakistani law student, they returned to their ancestral country and married.Little did they know that a brain tumour would become a near-lethal third wheel in their relationship.The cancer gnawed at Yasser’s personality, provoking aggressive outbursts.Was the illness still the explanation for his violence, or had it become an excuse?Aisha began to see their marriage within a bigger picture—of an oppressive society, and of the tug between feminist principles and personal happiness. Between Africa, America and Pakistan, Heart Tantrums and Brain Tumours is a unique story of identity and belonging, misogyny and motherhood, patriarchy and partnership.Its searing honesty and political passion reveal one woman’s battle to redefine the rules—by fighting for, and sometimes with, the man she loves.